I think at some time or another we’ve all had a bad friend. I also think at some time we’ve all been a bad friend. Now, if you haven’t experienced either of these – get out. No, I’m kidding -you’re lucky and a liar.
I know I’ve been a bad friend before, and I’ve tried to notice it and change my ways and grow from it. I was talking to a friend of mine that I’ve known for the better part of 8 years. We hardly ever see each other but we talk and catch up. I told him today that I think he’s the better friend of the two of us. I always take a while to get back to him and he usually follows up with me before I have chance to get back to him. I’ve shared a lot of information and milestones with him and I’ve watched him grow as a person. It’s been incredibly neat.
I was talking to a co-worker today and she was telling me a story about having several different best friends, about friends she’s had forever and how those friendships evolve. I can’t say that I know or keep in touch with a lot of people from my childhood. I’ve caught up with some elementary school friends on Facebook, I doubt I’ll ever see them. I have a handful of high school friends on Facebook – I think I only really keep in contact with two. I don’t talk to ANY of my California college friends; and I still have some very special friendships with my NY college friends. Most of my CLOSE friends are from NY college and after, when I moved back to California.
Does not being able to foster those long time relationships make me a bad friend? Hmmm, I hope not. I think in some cases yes, especially with my California college friends. I don’t necessarily think I was the bad friend, I think I didn’t care what they thought anymore. Kind of sucks, because I was really close to that group of girls. BUT girls do what girls do and judged me for what I wanted to do that had nothing to do with them. I figured, oh well – I’m leaving to NY, suck it. I think my approach was bad.
I think I have been a really good friend to my closest friends. They have been amazing in return. I’m one of those people who is really good on their own. Biologically, I’m an only child so I guess I’m used to it. I feel like I don’t have room for more friends, I am set with with the ones I have and I really try to dedicate quality time to them. I don’t have any more time!
I’m lucky that 17 really is my best friend. Between him, HelloKitty and TurtleGirl there isn’t a thing I haven’t shared. I have had some really great bad friend stories, do you have any stories to share?
I went to a rosary last night. I’m going to the funeral today. We had a chance to honor one of my tribal elders tonight. It was an unexpected and sudden passing. It got me thinking about how I’ve conducted my life and what people would say or think if it was me.
Her grandchildren has some beautiful things to say about her. There wasn’t a dry eye in the house. I know how that family feels. My family went through something similar 5 years ago when we lost my Nana. They are lucky to have each other and they are close and have some great stories to share. Sunday will be especially hard for them, while everyone is celebrating Mother’s Day, they will just have buried the center of their family.
I hope that I’ve told 17 that I love him enough times. I hope I’ve hugged TheMidget enough times. I hope I’ve made my parents proud and that I’ve been a good friend. I don’t plan on going anywhere anytime soon, but you never know if you have one more day. So take the time out to make sure the people who are important to you know they are important. It doesn’t have to be some grand gesture; a phone call, a text, a handwritten note, that special look. That’s what they’ll remember. I know I do.
So, 17…I love you so very much. HelloKitty, CanyonOwl, Bunny, Prinkyss, TresAmigas1, TresAmigas2 and TurtleGirl -you guys are the best friends a girl could have. I am lucky to have you. FamiliaDLT I love each and every one of you. The Moms – you are so special to me.
Sorry for the super emo post but you never know what could happen and I want you to know I appreciate you. I appreciate that YOU have taken the time to read this.
It finally feels like winter is settling in. The rain is on the way (3 storms, they say) and hopefully we can say adios to the 70 and 80 degree weather. Tonight I had a moment to relax, flip channels between a couple Christmas specials and see the lights on the tree at Rockefeller Center go on – from the warmth of my living room. We watched Merry Christmas Charlie Brown and now the SNL Christmas Special.
I feel like such an old lady, sitting in 17′s oversized recliner, watching TV with 3 sleeping dogs and crocheting the first of a couple scarves.
Every upcoming weekend has some sort of holiday event going on; Christmas parties with work and friends including Canyon Owl. This weekend a group of my very favorite people are getting together to build and decorate gingerbread houses with the kids. Should be a blas. I can’t wait to share those pics with you.
What are some of things you do to ring in the holiday season?